My friend confessed he has feelings for me – but am I just his Plan B?

The issue:
'A companion of mine has let me know he cares deeply about me. We've been companions for such a long time and I trust and love him, however I've never considered him sincerely.

'He was beguiling when he told me and I saw that as appealing, however I couldn't say whether I'm recently complimented. I've been single for quite a while and need a relationship.

'I don't know regardless of whether this is low confidence, yet I'm contemplating whether he truly needs to accompany me or on the other hand if he simply has any desire to be seeing someone.

'He has no issue drawing in ladies except for they never keep going long. I stress I'm his Plan B.'

What the specialists say:
Nobody needs to be one more's subsequent option yet we as a whole change as life unfurls.

'Plan A can be consigned to Plan Z and Plan B can become Plan A,' says James McConnachie. 'Try not to express no to life's chances in view of questions and what-uncertainties.'

You say you trust and like him, and it's unmistakable he enjoys you. 'In any case, some way or another you've deciphered his advantage as an affront,' says Rupert Smith. 'That is a fabulous piece of passionate vaulting.'

You keep thinking about whether this is low confidence: indeed, part of the way, however it likewise expresses a lot about your assumptions for personal connections.

'It's fascinating the amount you put resources into the possibility that having been single for some time, any relationship should along these lines be fuelled by distress and a settling for the easiest option,' says Dr Angharad Rudkin.

Numerous fruitful connections develop from dispassionate fellowships that at first gave no indication of sentiment.

'Truth be told, I can't imagine a preferred starting point for a relationship over the kinship you depict,' says McConnachie. 'In any case, obviously, what you're truly worried about is that he is your Plan B.'

Despite the fact that you portray his advantage as complimenting, your underlying response is a repressed one and this is the piece of you to pay attention to.

'Rather than arousing fervor and fascination, he has aggravated sensations of low confidence and worth,' says Rudkin.

'It is possible that his different connections are putting you off or it is possible that you try not to be with others since you dread being deserted by them so it would merit pondering this as you think about his suggestion.'